Dating rules for divorced parents
The most important things that both parents can do to help kids through this difficult time are: Adults going through separation and divorce need support — from friends, professionals, clergy, and family.But don't seek support from your kids, even if they seem to want you to.
But it should always include this message: What happened is between mom and dad and is not the child's fault.Tell your kids that sometimes adults change the way they love each other or can't agree on things and so they have to live apart.But remind them that kids and parents are tied together for life, by birth or adoption.It's enough for them to understand what will change in their daily routine — and, just as important, what will not. You might say something like: "Mom and dad are going to live in different houses so they don't fight so much, but we both love you very much." Older kids and teens may be more in tune with what parents have been going through, and might have more questions based on what they've overheard and picked up on from conversations and fights.Tell kids who are upset about the news that you recognize and care about their feelings, and reassure them that all of their upset feelings are perfectly OK and understandable.